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“Nothing is impossible; the word itself says, ‘I’m possible!’”

– Audrey Hepburn

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What you can do to fight depression.

If you want to know more about depression, check my article.

The first thing to do is fight your  critical self attack. Depression makes us think we don’t deserve to live, we can’t wake up in the mornings or we’re just tired enough to anything else except for sleeping. When you get those thoughts, you have to fight them. Your depression is lying to you, it took control of your life but you can’t allow it to stay forever.

To begin this process, it is helpful to think of these destructive thoughts as being like the parasites that keep you in bed when you’re sick with the flu. Don’t listen to these attacks when they tell you not to pursue your goals, to isolate yourself, or to forego an activity you enjoy. This gives the voice even more power over you. Instead, when you notice these thoughts and attitudes starting to intensify and take precedence over your more realistic, positive ways of thinking, it is essential to identify them as an alien point of view. Ask yourself, would you think such cruel thoughts about a friend or family member who was experiencing the same struggles. By having compassion for yourself and recognizing this inner voice as a destructive enemy, you can begin to see who you are more clearly and realistically.

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Again, exercise.

Many studies have examined the efficacy of exercise to reduce symptoms of depression, and the overwhelming majority of these studies have described a positive benefit associated with exercise involvement. For example, 30 community-dwelling moderately depressed men and women were randomly assigned to an exercise intervention group, a social support group, or a wait-list control group. The exercise intervention consisted of walking 20 to 40 minutes 3 times per week for 6 weeks. The authors reported that the exercise program alleviated overall symptoms of depression and was more effective than the other 2 groups in reducing somatic symptoms of depression (reduction of 2.4 [walking] vs. 0.9 [social support] and 0.4 [control] on the Beck Depression Inventory [BDI], p < .05). Doyne et al. utilized a multiple baseline design to evaluate the effectiveness of interval training in alleviating symptoms of depression. The participants exercised on a cycle ergometer 4 times per week, 30 minutes per session, for 6 weeks. This treatment was compared with an attention-placebo control condition in which subjects listened to audiotapes of “white noise” that they were told was subliminal assertiveness training. Results indicated that the aerobic training program was associated with a clear reduction in depression compared with the control condition, and the improvements in depression were maintained at 3 months post intervention (BDI mean reduction of 14.4 points from baseline, p < .05). In another study, just 30 minutes of treadmill walking for 10 consecutive days was sufficient to produce a clinically relevant and statistically significant reduction in depression (reduction of 6.5 points from baseline on the Hamilton Rating Scale for Depression.Health-and-mental-health-benefits-of-exercise.jpg

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Force yourself when you just don’t want to do it.

Depression is one of the hardest emotional states to endure, because the symptoms themselves can destroy your will and energy to engage in activities you once loved. Giving in to this lethargic state can give your depression even more power, whereas staying active in your life, pursuing anything and everything you may find of interest will re-ignite your spark and keep you on your own side.

For example, do you want to isolate yourself? DON’T. Humans need to interact with other humans so, even going to a public space could be extremely helpful!fe4e1ab0dfb04f943fa24f00a0e376f9.jpg

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Watch something funny.

Do you feel bad? Don’t punish yourself. enjoy a tv show. You can draw (highly recommended), sing or dance. You decide!

Feeling embarrassed or self-hating over your depression will only increase your symptoms and discourage you from seeking help. Your critical thoughts toward yourself will try to keep you down any way they can, including by attacking you for feeling down. It’s important to take your side and have compassion for yourself at those difficult times and this is way you need to take care of yourself. You’re growing, you’re fighting. Every warrior needs this! So have fun. As strange as it might sound, you have to work at having fun. Plan things you used to enjoy, even if they feel like a chore. Keep going to the movies. Keep going out with friends for dinner.o-woman-theater-facebook.jpg

Get in a routine.

Depression can dismantle the structure from your life.  One day melts into the next. Setting a gentle daily schedule can help you get back on track. You can create a morning routine or a night routine or just set a timer: get up and do something productive for a set amount of time.

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Get enough sleep.

What can you do? Start by making some changes to your lifestyle. Go to bed and get up at the same time every day. Try not to nap. Take all the distractions out of your bedroom — no computer and no TV. This will take time but never give up!aesthetic-bed-bed-sheets-aesthetic.jpg

You can also take vitamine supplements and, needless to say, go to a therapist. Talking about your feelings is the most important thing to do.

-Stefania

Dopo l’anno mille in Inghilterra

L’area anglo-normanna. la lingua d’oil

Dell’area anglo-normanna, verosimilmente collegata alla cerchia di Enrico II Plantageneto , provengono i Lais (melodia) di Maria di Francia. L’autrice elabora, in volgare francese, la materia del ciclo bretone, ponendo in primo piano i temi del fin amors. Vi è tuttavia in questi componimenti, la consapevolezza dell’importanza della cultura classica che spesso fungono da modello di partenza. Così nel ciclo epico carolingio,  il cui maggior frutto è la Chanson de Roland, le vicende della società feudale e dei suoi eroi conservano l’impronta dell’epopea antica e delle gesta omeriche. Alla base delle chansons de geste del ciclo epico carolingio vi è una realtà storica realmente avvenuta. Nella Chanson de Roland, un certo Turoldo rievoca gli avvenimenti tragici che colpirono la retroguardia dell’esercito di Carlo Magno presso Roncisvalle il 15 Agosto 778.

La letteratura di maggiore diffusione in questo periodo è il romanzo  in versi costruito con temi e motivi del ciclo bretone, divulgato in Francia dalla traduzione della Historia regum Britanniae  di Goffredo di Monmouth. Riesce a fondere la tradizione arturiana con le storie di Chrétien de Troyes sul Sacro Graal.  Di questo scrittore abbiamo pochissime notizie. Si sa che inizia a diffondere i primi romanzi nela corte di Eleonora di Aquitania , moglie del re inglese. Muore in Fiandra, presso Filippo d’Alsazia, al quale dedica il racconto incompiuto ”Perceval”. I suoi racconti testimoniamo il cambiamento per quanto riguarda la figura del cavaliere e le leggi cortesi in quel periodo.clip_image0012.jpg

I trovatori provenzali in lingua d’oc

Gli stessi motivi e le metafore amorose tratte dai rapporti feudali ricorrono nella poesia dei trovatori provenzali, i quali compongono in lingua d’oc, parlata nel Meridione. Il più importante di cui abbiamo alcune notizie è Guglielmo IX di Aquitania. Degli undici componenti rimasti, alcuni sono giullareschi, altri sensuali e un po’ grossolani nel contenuto,altri di pentimento. Guglielmo è un caposcuola, seguito da Ebolo di Ventadorn, del quale non ci è pervenuta nessuna opera. Ricordiamo Marcabruno che rifiuta l’ideale amoroso cantato dai poeti perché vi scorge l’inganno dell’adulterio. Ha un atteggiamento ribelle contro il mondo cortese, che si riflette nella scelta di usare una forma poetica oscura, definita trobar clus. Invece Bernardo di Ventardon  è il poeta d’amore per eccellenza e per l’originalità dei suoi testi. Le canzoni dei trovatori in langue d’oc, nelle loro svariate manifestazioni, delle chansons courtoises, alle pastourelles, alla chanson d’aube  sono accompagnate da musica, spesso dalle armonose corde della viella.bonaiuto_non_decorata.jpg

Non diversamene, i trovieri in langue d’oil, nella Francia settentrionale, ritmano al suono delle chansons de geste ma anche il serventese, il lamento (o ennui), il jeu partie altre forme popolari.

-Stefania

Recensione “L’amore rubato”

Titolo:”L’amore rubato”;

Autore: Dacia Maraini;

Genere: Fiction;

Voto: 8/10.

Donne dei nostri giorni, donne che potresti incontrare al supermercato in un normale Mercoledì, le stesse donne che combattono contro gli uomini che un tempo amarono, ma che ora si dimostrano infantili e violenti. Donne che cadono dalle scale, che nascondono i frutti delle violenze, che stanno zitte per paura. Donne vittime della gelosia, della pazzia, dell’arroganza e del narcisismo.

Sopportano fino alla morte, fino a quando l’amore non le mette in una tomba. Non riescono a reagire, sono ingabbiate nelle loro stesse paure, nelle minacce, nelle quattro mura domestiche.

Vittime del pregiudizio, del sessismo e delle giustificazioni nei confronti del genere maschile.

Dicono di fingere, alle donne piace. Le chiamano stupide, volevano solo passarsi il tempo.

“ ‘Na scema furba…c’aveva detto che nun parlava, l’aveva promesso, dico io ma che stai a di’? ce voi compromette per ‘na scopata! E quella è annata a spifferare tutto, ‘na spia, fatta e cacata, una che annava in giro senza mutande come la chiami? una che….sempre co ‘ste gambe all’aria come la chiami eh? Ce lo voleva e l’ha avuto, era quello che se meritava.” (pag.82)

L’amore, tanto desiderato, viene poi rubato dagli amanti e sostituito con qualcosa di diverso. Una cosa estranea, tossica e radioattiva.

Questo libro fa riflettere molto su quello che le donne devono passare ogni giorno. In Italia, il tasso di violenza domestica è abbastanza alto ma, nonostante tutto, nessuno ci crede. I poliziotti ignorano, giustificano. Poi succedono le tragedie e dov’è la giustizia?

Mi ha colpito molto, specialmente come vengono descritti gli abusi, senza ulteriori filtri.

Forse per alcuni è difficile da digerire ma ve lo consiglio, soprattutto se volete saperne di più sull’argomento.

How to manage anxiety

You feel the restrictive sensation of your chest walls caving in as if someone is standing on your ribcage. You’re becoming alarmingly aware of the rhythm of your breathing and wonder if your next breath will be your last. It’s like you’re drowning without being under water. You think, “I can’t breathe. I’m going to die. Just breathe. Just breathe.”

Heart palpitations, shortness of breath, and rapid heart rate are just some of the scary body reactions that occur during a panic attack. These symptoms can intensify and increase, leading to uncontrollable trembling, sweating, tightness around the head, and the feeling of suffocation.

As anyone suffering from chronic anxiety understands, you can’t control when a panic attack hits; and, in fact, trying to control it can sometimes make it worse. The greatest fear for someone dealing with anxiety is losing control in public, feeling trapped in an uncomfortable situation and experiencing humiliation. When anxiety hits, it can make you feel like you’re going crazy—like you have absolutely no control over your own mind. When you can’t find a way to relax, it can feel like you’ve abandoned yourself in the moments of your attack. Like any chronic condition, you can’t just wish panic attacks away, get rid of them with medication, or make them disappear in any given situation. However, you can learn to better manage your anxiety over time to decrease the amount of panic attacks you experience.

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I’ve been struggling with anxiety for all my life and I’ve tried a lot of ways to manage it or just feel calm for few seconds. However, nothing worked at the beginning because I had an exremely unhealthy approach. Now, I’m defintely better and these are the ways you can use to cope with you chronic or acute anxiety.

  • Diaphragmatic breathing

When you get a panick attack, only breathing won’t work but you can try diaphragmatic breathing:  your belly expands in and out instead of your chest going up and down. Take longer to exhale than inhale, perhaps inhaling for five seconds and exhaling for four.

This is a useful tutorial I found on youtube.

  • Muscle relaxation

This PDF explains what you need to do and what it’s about.

  • Take vitamin B6 and iron

They play an important role in the regulation of serotonin, the hormone of happiness. A balanced level of it can allow you to better cope with difficulties or low mood.

If you want to know more about it, check this site.

  • Limit caffeine and drink more chamomile tea

Caffeine is a central nervous system stimulant so it can make your anxiety worse and stimulate the ”flight or fight” response. So be aware of all the amount on caffeine in the food you consume daily. According to certain studies, chamomile is not only relaxing but it also can fight depression and anxiety.

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  • Exercise

 Studies show that 20 minutes (or 10 minute walk)  of exercise is all it takes to reduce symptoms of anxiety. Exercise will not only make you feel better about yourself, but will also flood your body with endorphins. The effect is temporary but it helps to boost your mood. If you want to know more check these sites: here and here.

According to me, dancing is the best method ever.

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  • Talk to someone you trust about how you’re feeling

Just talking to someone about how you feel can take a weight off your shoulders. Make sure you trust the person, then work out what you want to say to them.

  • Focus on the present

We often dwell about the future and what is going to happen. Especially if you have chronic anxiety, you live on ”what ifs” and they literally destroy you perception of reality. You start wondering about 2000 possible things that could happen but, remember, it’s just in your head. You need to focus on what there’s truly around you and the right possibilities. To do this, you can use positive affirmation or meditation.

  • Relax and go out

A complete and structured schedule can make some people feel extremely worried so why don’t you take a break? Wheter it’s a Netflix show, a shower or a ride bike. You need time to relax, you can’t work everyday. Stress isn’t going to help you or avoiding your anxiety by working. I knew some people who used their job as a way to stay away from their worries and they only worsened their condition.

Self-care is important as well.

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Call to mind this: you need to actively control you thoughts and face your fears. You will never get rid of your anxiety if you don’t do anything to help yourself. I know it’s hard to deal with these things but you can’t live the same situation all over again. We all need to change and improve our lives, to live them completely and  fight our demons.

-Stefania

Runic alphabet

Runes are the letters in a set of related alphabets known as runic alphabets, which were used to write various Germanic languages. The Scandinavian variant is known as futhark or fuþark (the first six letters of the alphabet), the Anglo-saxon variant is futhorc or fuþorc. The earliest runic inscriptions  date from around 150 AD. The characters were generally replaced by the Latin alphabet approximately in 700 AD and 1100 AD in Northern Europe.

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Origins

The name comes from the Germanic root run- meaning ”secret” or ”whisper”. In old Irish Gaelic, the word ruìn  means ”mistery”, ”secret”, ”intention”. It’s the same in Welsh and Old English.

The runes developed centuries after the Oold Italic aplhabets and the debate on the development of the runic script concerns the question regarding which italic alphabets should be taken as their point of origin. The Raetic alphabet of Bolzano is often advaced as a candidate for the origin of runes. They were mainly used for magical and divinatory uses. They’re still used in modern pagan religions such as Wicca.0b39de9a8804d9cd560aa93eae0cf507--rune-stones-viking-art.jpg

Fuþark  chracteristics

It was initially made by 24 signs called runes. There are further evolutions of the alphabet but the letters have this shape because they were carved in wood or other elements.

These are the letters and the equivalent sounds:

  • ᚠ fehu = ph;
  • ᚢ uruz = u;
  • ᚦ þurisaz  = þ (th), ð;
  • ᚫ  ansuz = a;
  • ᚱ raido = r;
  • ᚲ kaunan = k;
  • ᚷ gebo= g;
  • ᚹ wunjo = w, v;
  • ᚺ hagalaz = h;
  • ᚾ naudiz = n;
  • ᛁ isaz = i;
  • ᛃ jera- = j, y(?);
  • ᛇ  ī(h)waz/*ei(h)waz= æ, œ
  • ᛈ perþ- = p;
  • ᛉ algiz= z;
  • ᛋ sowilo= s;
  • ᛏ tiwaz/teiwaz= t;
  • ᛒ  berkanan= b;
  • ᛖ ehwaz = e;
  • ᛗ  mannaz= m;
  • ᛚ  laguz= l;
  • ᛜ  ingwaz= ng;
  • ᛞ ōþila-/*ōþala- = d;
  • ᛟ  dagaz= o.

-Stefania

I got mistyped

I thought I was an INFP but I’m an INTJ. I wrote a lot about INFPs relating to their characteristics but I’m wrong and I’ll explain why.

I went through a lot and when you struggle, the typing can be extremely inaccurate. For example, the third function for INTJs is Fi. Fi is about values, both moral and ethic, and Fi users make decisions according to what they think (check this article if you want to know more). When an INTJ is stuck in this loop, he/she can become extremely sensitive to criticisms and defensive. They also can be paranoid and play the victim card. I can relate to it but now that I am in a better position, I can understand how my thinking process is completely different. I don’t make decisions according to my emotions, I just choose the most logical one. I can think ”yes this is wrong” but if it must be done… what can I do? If it’s logically right, why should I avoid it just because I perceive it as completely wrong?

 

Ne vs Ni.

Ne is about branstoming and seeing the possibilities, Ni is more straightforward. When I think about a situation, I learnt how to think about the possibilities but my thinking process is like ”x happens–>this is gonna happen—>end”- I learnt that this could be often wrong so I decided to brainstorm and unederstand which is the best solution. Ne users usually think like ”x happens–>what if …–>this or this?” and then their thoughts can become less linear and they could get lost in possibilities. Ne users have more hobbies and they often change them because they’re attracted by something they find more fascinating and they can get bored easily.  Ni users usually get concentrated on the  few but very importat ones. Everything they do has a purpose, they just learn for the sake of doing it. I’m extremely concentrated on the future and everything I study about will be used to accomplish my goals.

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NPs may also misread NJs as arrogant or overly opinionated, since NPs generally do not experience the same degree of confidence or conviction in their conclusions as NJs do. They may feel the NJ should be more outwardly open to other perspectives, which is of course a projection of the NP’s own natural preferences. In my experience, NPs and NJs tend to get along best when NPs can forgo their tendency to constantly jump topics, thereby allowing the NJ to more fully flesh out his or her ideas. While this may initially seem somewhat unnatural for NPs, they often discover that NJs can take them to new levels of ideational depth that would be difficult for them to achieve on their own. Once a new level of depth is achieved, NPs can then do their thing, expanding outward to forge broad connections and association

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I had a lot of arguments with NPs and I this describes perfectly my situation. They ask me how I can be so sure and I must be more open to new possibilties but why? If I know that nothing will really happen? Thinking too much about possibilities can lead to  severe anxiety. I’m an overthinker, I think more about my plans that about executing them because I need time to gain the right knowledge to see if it can be done but it’s a different process.

Ni is more convergent than Ne, gradually moving toward a single comprehensive vision or solution. Ni is expressed outwardly either through Fe or Te. Unlike Ne, which is outwardly scattered and disjointed, the outward expression of Ni, since is far more linear and streamlined. NJs prefer to penetrate deeply into a single issue rather than superficially bouncing from one topic to the next. NJs are not immune to long stories or monologues, as their Ni, when given the chance, will continue to penetrate a topic until it has been well-fleshed out.

Thinking vs Feeling.

I first was typed as INTJ but then I went deep down on the topic and I got lost so I asked to some bloggers to type me and I got INFP. Bloggers don’t have a good idea of functions though so when they explained why I was an INFP…well, I was extremely skeptical. I read about Empaths and how , especially INFx,  love to define themselves like one.  I’d rather think about the solution instead of complaining with them and feel their emotions. When someone is suffering around me. I don’t get influenced even though we all do, it’s basic psychology but it could be subjective. I observed a lot of empaths who take personally other peoples’ problems. I’m aware of how much empathy is important so I try my best to relate to my friends but sometimes, it’sa bit hard. I was accused of being insensitive because I told them the possible solutions and I didn’t support them emotionally but don’t you think this is definetely better? Why should you choose self-pity? We all take this path in our lives at a certain point, we all fall in the trap of self-pity but there are still differences between two personality types.

I know INFPs don’t talk much about their emotions but they’re capable of expressing them. INTJs..well, expressing them? I just can’t. I find no words, I’m good at writing poems but I don’t say how I feel, I create images. When I try to talk with someone about my emotions, I just get extremely confused and I stay silent. A person once told me:”Maybe it’s better we get back to your beloved logic?” I’m not in touch with them, not as much as I should be (like an INFP in this case).0503a4120dd3076402c08fa7f7ce269b

 

Some people think to be cool because they’re logical robots with zero empathy (like every INTJ on Tumblr) but THIS isn’t beaautiful, it’s extremely annoying and this is why we need to improve ourselves. Being a robot who goes around thinking to be a genius like Tesla is just stupid and probably not even a true INTJ.

Anyway, I think this test can’t read your mind or describe completely your personality. It’s impossible to classify billion and billion of people so getting mistyped is extremely common. I don’t even think the 16 personality test is reliable because the questions are too general. I honestly think studying functions is definetely better because it gives you a wider comprehension of what there’s truly behind Jung’s studies. All those blogs on Tumblr just perpetuate stupid stereotypes like ”INTJs are extremely organised and they love routines”. This is wrong, it’s a Si-dom trait. We love organisation, planning but boring routines? What is the point?

I have to add that we can share the same type but we will never be similar. Our enviroment shapes our personality so it’s normal if we think differently about certain topics. We can share the same struggles maybe, the same thinking process but being the same person is impossible.

Remember this, our third function is Fi so we have feelings and we can understand them. We just deal with them differently. We’re not like INTPs, their last function is Fe which makes them extremely detached from feelings, maybe more than INTJs. We just decide not to rely on them because this could cause so many problems but it’s also our right to understand when we must get in touch with them or not. The stereotypes around our persona are simply stupid because we’re not sociopaths (sometimes I wonder if they know the symptoms of this mental illness) who plan to conquer the world, we’re just normal human beings with no superpower. All I see it’s just an exaggeration who only can bring more complications to typing or understanding the types.

 

-Stefania