How to stop self-harming

Some of us struggle with extreme hate towards ourselves and this brings us to punish ourselves and engage in bad habits. This could be done by self-harming. Ignore not necessarily cutting but others actions could be committed.


• Scars;

• Fresh cuts, scratches, bruises or other wounds;

• Excessive rubbing of an area to create a burn;

• Keeping sharp objects on hand;

• Wearing long sleeves or long pants, even in hot weather;

• Difficulties in interpersonal relationships;

• Persistent questions about personal identity, such as “Who am I?” “What am I doing here?”;

• Behavioral and emotional instability, impulsivity and unpredictability;

• Statements of helplessness, hopelessness or worthlessness.

Forms of self-injury

• Cutting (cuts or severe scratches with a sharp object);

• Scratching;

• Burning (with lit matches, cigarettes or hot, sharp objects like knives);

• Carving words or symbols on the skin;

• Hitting or punching;

• Piercing the skin with sharp objects;

• Pulling out hair;

• Persistently picking at or interfering with wound healing.


How to stop

  1. Call someone and stay with your friends.
  • If you’re alone in your house or unable to leave, call someone to talk with or ask to that person to come over. You can also call a hotline:
  • 1-800-273-TALK;
  • 1-800-334-HELP;
  • 1-800-DON’T-CUT.
  • 2. Draw on your body or a piece of paper.
  • If your thoughts won’t leave you alone, you have these two alternatives. Draw on the place where you want to hurt yourself.
  • 3. Distract yourself.
  • You could: make a cup of tea, work in a puzzle or a mind game, play a musical instrument, watch Tv, play a sport, take a walk, dance or draw.
  • 4. Wait.
  • Wait for 10 minutes, see if the urge goes away. Wait until you don’t feel it anymore.
  • 5. Remind yourself why you don’t need it.
  • Tell yourself why you don’t want and why you don’t deserve it. You have a choice, it’s up to you.
  • 6. Remove self-harming tools from your house.
  • Knives, lighters or anything else.
  • 7. Understand the different forms of self-harm and what is the trigger.
  • 8. Change negative thought patterns.
  • Analyse your feelings, write about it and interrupt your negative thoughts. Challenge these ones and replace them with positive ones.
  • Stay safe, friends.
  • -Stefania
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